Monday, May 30, 2011

爱情



爱情是追到手的吗?

不是。真正的感情根本不需要追的。

两个人的默契,在慢慢将两颗心的距离缩短,在无意识中渐渐靠近彼此。

从好朋友到情人,真正的感情是用不了多久的。

从你喜欢上他的那一刻起,也许他也在那一刻喜欢上了你。

同节奏的爱情往往能奏出最和谐最动听的乐章。

真正的爱情需要什么?需要两个人在一起是轻松快乐的,没有压力。

爱一个人就是毫无保留地付出吗?

不是。

每一个人都是一个独立的人,我们首先是属于自己的,

我们有思想,我们有个性,而不是把我们的全部都给对方。

我们可以有保留,比如你不愿意说的隐私,有秘密的人才是成熟的,不是吗?

有时候不说出来反而更好。

外貌和个性哪个更重要?

男人年轻的时候往往喜欢漂亮的女子,

25
岁以后,会选择和自己性格合适的女子,能和自己一起过日子的人。

喜欢一个人,太急切了,反而不好。

一是因为越想得到的越得不到;

二是得到了也很难珍惜,来得快去得也快。

细水长流一些,爱情会更长久。

相爱容易相处难。

相处中最重要的是宽容和妥协,在信任和了解的基础上。

没有宽容和妥协,任何两个人都无法相处。

纯纯的爱也许只有一次,但是真爱未必只有一次。

时间会抚平一切伤痕。

我们其实是可以爱上很多人的。

我们不是喜欢某个人,而是喜欢某种类型的人。

先来的人和我们相遇了,于是我们幸福地走到了一起;

对于后到的人,只能抱以歉意,同时,祝福他早日找到属于他自己的幸福。

没有谁是我们一生非拥有不可的,

爱一个人,很多时候实际上是习惯了这个人

现实和浪漫哪个更重要?

现实。

没有现实为基础,浪漫就是空中楼阁。

大学校园的爱情往往随着毕业而告终,大多是因为不现实,不在一个城市。

只有相互欣赏相互佩服各有所长的人,

才会碰撞出最美丽的火花,也才会结出最甜美的爱情果实。

分手后我们还可以做朋友吗?

最好不要。

剪不断,理还乱。

过去了就过去了,我们不是生活在过去,而是现在。

爱情不等于生活,只是生活的一部分。

不要因为自己长相不如对方而放弃追求的打算,

长相只是一时的印象,真正决定能否结合主要取决于双方的性格。

帅哥配丑女,丑女配帅哥的太多了。

恋爱的时间能长尽量长。

这最少有两点好处:

一,充分、尽可能长的享受恋爱的愉悦,

二,两人相处时间越长,越能检验彼此是否真心,越能看出两人性格是否合得来。

想知道一个人爱不爱你,就看他和你在一起有没有活力,

开不开心,有就是爱,没有就是不爱。

爱情不是感动,

你不是他心目中的理想伴侣,即使一时接受你,

将来碰上他心仪的那一位,一样会离开你。

有些人情绪容易大起大落,这样的人是很难维持一段长久的关系的。

浪漫是什么?

是送花?雨中漫步?楼前伫立不去?

如果两人彼此倾心相爱,什么事都不做,静静相对都会感觉是浪漫的。

否则,即使两人坐到月亮上拍拖,也是感觉不到浪漫的。

是否门当户对不要紧,最重要应该是兴当趣对,不然没有共同语言,

即使在一起,仍然会感觉到孤独。

持久的爱情源于彼此发自内心的真爱,建立在平等的基础之上。

任何只顾疯狂爱人而不顾自己有否被爱,

或是只顾享受被爱而不知真心爱人的人都不会有好的结局。

爱情既是风险投资,难免有去无回,失恋是再正常不过的事情。

爱过,就够了。

既然不能在一起,总有不能在一起的理由。

不能因为别人负了你,就不负责任地游戏、报复或是堕落,

自己演的戏,总要自己收场的。

何况,他不爱你,你做什么他都不会在乎。

如果爱上,就不要轻易放过机会。

莽撞,可能使你后悔一阵子;

怯懦,却可能使你后悔一辈子。

没有经历过爱情的人生是不完整的,没有经历过痛苦的爱情是不深刻的。

爱情使人生丰富,痛苦使爱情升华。

你可能习惯与现在的恋人,

明明不太喜欢,但在一起久了,习惯使人不太愿做新的选择。

人生会面临无数次选择。

当给你机会选择时,你一定要谨慎;

一旦你做出了选择,就永远不要后悔;

拿得起,放得下,该断则断,该忘记的,就把它忘记;

该珍惜的,就要把它珍惜

我们总说:我要找一个很爱很爱的人,才会谈恋爱。

但是当对方问你,怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候,你却无法回答他,

因为你自己也不知道。

没错,我们总是以为,我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。

可是后来,当我们猛然回首,我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。

假如从来没有开始,你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢?

其实,很爱很爱的感觉,是要在一起经历了许多事情之后才会发现的。

或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣,

但是你有没有想过,在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了,

只是你没有发觉而已呢?

所以,还是仔细看看身边的人吧,他或许已经等你很久了。

当你爱一个人的时候,爱到八分绝对刚刚好。

所有的期待和希望都只有七八分,剩下两三分用来爱自己。

如果你还继续爱得更多,很可能会给对方沉重的压力,让彼此喘不过气来,

完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。

所以请记住,喝酒不要超过六分醉,吃饭不要超过七分饱,爱一个人不要超过八分。

如果你也正在为爱迷惘,

或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示:

爱一个人,要了解也要开解;

要道歉也要道谢;要认错也要改错;

要体贴也要体谅;是接受而不是忍受;

是宽容而不是纵容;是支持而不是支配;

是慰问而不是质问;是倾诉而不是控诉;

是难忘而不是遗忘;是彼此交流而不是凡事交代;

是为对方默默祈求而不是向对方诸多要求。

可以浪漫,但不要浪费,不要随便牵手,更不要随便放手。

浪漫的人这样描述与爱人的相逢:

千万人当中,在时间的无涯的荒野里,没有早一步,也没 有晚一步,刚巧赶上了。

两个人好着的时候,你不妨就这样想吧。

如果不好了,你要明白是否和某人在一起,不过是一个再简单不过的概率问题。

数千个擦肩而过中,你给谁机会谁就和你有缘分,纵没有甲,也会有乙。

别傻等那种想像中的木石前盟般的缘分了,生活中哪有那么多传奇。

别醒着做梦了,难道你忘了艺术虽然来源生活,却还高于生活吗



摘自<爱、文章>

Thursday, May 26, 2011

有很多时候


我真的想在这里发泄一些心情
想在这里
要说什么就说什么
要写什么就写什么
不顾及其他人的感受
可是
我知道我不可以这么做
所以,也逼自己打消这个念头
好无奈,真的好无奈。

事后再告诉自己
事情会过去的
忍一忍吧
我可以的
就自己消化事情吧
不要把事情闹大
就这样

部落格
已不再是
发泄情绪的管道了
至少,我的不是。

我的一位密友曾经发了一通类似这样的讯息给我,内容是这样的:
人生最无奈的事  就是当一个人有很多话想说  而他却找不到身边的人听他说
他只能够上blogger 和自己分享。

那位密友应该会读到这段。
只想说 我很喜欢你每次默默地关心我 真的谢谢你



Tuesday, May 24, 2011

测试你的农村姓名!

知道农村为啥给小孩子取名叫狗蛋、狗剩、小栓么?因为小孩取个贱名不生病好养活,所以根据出生月份和日期起名字。
根据阳历(公历)

例子:我的阳历生日是11月30日
11=胖 + 30=美丽 = 胖美丽! 哈哈哈哈哈!

生日中 月份:
1 长 2 栓 3 大 4 来 5 狗 6 守 7 傻 8 福 9屎 10 二 11 胖 12 臭

生日中 具体日期:
1 娟 2 妮3 腿 4 娣 5 球 6 坑 7 年 8 岁 9 娃 10 毛 11 剩 12 姑 13 英 14 妹 15 肥 16 霞 17 狗 18 虎 19 花20 凤 21 定 21 村 22 蛋 23 妞 24 牛 25 木26 翠 27 爱
28 财 29 石 30 美丽 31 发

你叫什么呢?测完请留言!=)


PS: Thank you readers for liking the previous post!
Actually I'm kinda shocked to received so many Likes.
XD

Friday, May 20, 2011

纯友谊关系



男女之间真的会有纯友谊关系的朋友吗?

你觉得呢?


在我的生命里,的确有这些朋友的存在。
他们是谁,你们应该知道吧。
没错,很多人都会怀疑我们到底真的是不是纯友谊的关系?
可是,我唯一可以确定的是,那些我已经把他们列入名单的,真的只会是朋友。
怎样的一个朋友呢?
是一辈子的好朋友。
事实上,我真的很喜欢这样的关系。
没有暧昧,就是很单纯的像朋友般过这打打闹闹的日子。
分享大家的故事,且很陶醉在我们自己的世界。
这样的关系,真的很难得。
我觉得,他就像是soul mate/mirror.
我们常说我们俩还真的蛮像,看着他,好像看到自己一样,像一面镜子。
当然,我们都喜欢说出心里的那一块,不是表面上说的,是内心的一些感受。
一起聆听对方的心声,一起分析事物和问题,再一起达到共识。
无可否认,我觉得朋友之间,拥有共同的想法是蛮重要的。
能够交到这种朋友,真的很不容易,相信这是上天赐给我们的礼物。
感情真的很深厚,除了我们自己,没有任何事情会破坏我们之间的友情。
当然,这是不可能的,失去他,真的会好像失去了精神上的支柱一样。
我个人认为,不管是在哪方面的感情,信任真的很重要。
任何感情没有了信任,就没有了意义。
面对他,真的可以卸下心房,做最真实的自己。
虽然话是这样说没错,但我必须坦白,在某些时候,我还是会有保留。
这是和我自己的个性有关,不是对方的问题。
我还是会希望自己可以拥有自己所保留下来的空间。
不过,话说回来,几乎在一起说话的时候,我都毫无保留的把最真实的自己给抛出来。
我有没有表现自然,对方应该感受得到吧。

另一方面,既然都把对方看得那么透彻,可是为什么不会有发展的可能呢?
我觉得,就是因为太了解对方,已经彻底的知道他在想什么,所以,不会对他感到好奇。
而且,我们的关系已经可以好到像家人一样了。
情人,总有一天会分开。
朋友,是一辈子不分开。
对我而言,男生女生的朋友都很重要,而且要平均。
有时候,和不同圈子参在一起的感觉是不一样的,得到的快乐也不同。
总之,就是不一样的感触。
有这样纯友谊关系的异性朋友,感觉真的真的很不错。
所以,我非常珍惜他们。
他们在我心目中的地位,很重要。
我们不是恋人未满。
是友逹以上,因为,我们都是上帝忘了赐给对方的家人。
这种感觉,真的很亲厚。

♥爱你们♥

for you and all of you :)

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Aaaaaah !


si liao si liao
ai siao liao
cham liao
gai liao
bo huat liao
bo lat liao
tak beh liao
.........


this is what usually happens during the midst of exam.
HAHAHAHAHA!
i cannot finish the syllabus.
sighsighsigh.
i'm losing my determination.
stamina lagging.
not like last time anymore.
deteriorate ! Ish...

:p


Monday, May 16, 2011

Ways to Love Your GirlFriend ♥



1. When you say goodbye, hug her for that extra moment, even if people are watching.

2. Make her feel important: Talk to her, sincerely ask her if she is alright if she seems sad or hurt.

3. Stand up for her

4. Buy her something personal. Or, better yet, make her something.

5. If she tells you that she loves you, kiss her lightly, then whisper “I love you more” while you are still touching her lips.

6. Take her out, even not to an expensive dinner or the movies. Sometimes where you first met or a walk around the park can be very romantic.

7. Hold her hand when you’re with your friends.

8. Share inside jokes.

9. If there is a food she loves, buy it and surprise her.

10. Always call her back, even if it’s just to say I love you.

11. If she is lagging behind, pick her up in your arms and carry her.

12. Randomly give her a peck on the forehead, nose, cheek, etc..Randomly give her a peck on the forehead, nose, cheek, etc..

13. Look her deep in her eyes.

14. Gather her up in your arms and kiss the top of her head.

15. Love her at her worst.

16. Give her your sweatshirt and cuddle with her.

17. Pick her up and spin her around.

18. Laugh with her, not at her.

19. Listen to music with her, and with same headphones, of course!

20. Listen to everything she says.

21. Tell her how much you love her.

22. Always ask her what would make her happy that you could do.

23. If you start fighting stop and say i love you and im sorry can we stop fighting please.

24. NEVER tell her she’s ugly, fat, etc. (even if you’re joking)

25. When a girl is mad at you , you never stop talking to her even if she’s says go away or i never want to talk to you again never stop talking to her and saying sorry for what you have done.


Indeed, a very perfect guideline.
Somehow, I don't think perfect people exist.
So, it is just a guideline.
Found this from meen's blog.
Source of this article: tumblr
Come on guys, do love your girlfriend this way !
=D

Domokun, me love !

Can someone buy me this cute little domokun for me?
Anything of it will do.
I really suka him lor.
Hehe.
XDDDD
i'm wish-listing.
=P
you may refer to this link


Dear friend, I'm truly sorry
Do I deserve your forgiveness?
果然,该面对的终究要面对。
一切真的就像我预定的一样。
我也很不错嘛,
可以预料到这些事情的发生。
事情都像我想的一样。
嗯,加油吧!
希望考试顺利。
哈哈哈!

Saturday, May 14, 2011

一定要听一下,真的。

很想知道你近況 
我聽人説還不如你對我講 
經過那段遺憾 
請你放心 我變得更加堅強 
世界不管怎樣荒涼 
愛過你就不怕孤單 

我最親愛的 你過的怎麼樣 
沒我的日子 你別來無恙 
依然親愛的 我沒讓你失望 
讓我親一親 像過去一樣 

我想你一定喜歡 
現在的我學會了你最愛的開朗 
想起你的模樣 
有什麼錯 
還不能夠被原諒 
世界不管怎樣荒涼 
愛過你就不怕孤單 

我最親愛的 你過的怎麼樣 
沒我的日子 你別來無恙 
依然親愛的 我沒讓你失望 
讓我親一親 像朋友一樣 

雖然離開了你的時間 
比一起還漫長 
我們總能補償 
因為中間空白的時光 
如果還能分享 
也是一種浪漫 
關係雖然不再一樣 
關心卻怎麼能說斷就斷 

我最親愛的 你過的怎麼樣 
沒我的日子 你別來無恙 
依然親愛的 我沒讓你失望 
讓我親一親 像親人一樣 

我最親愛的 你過的怎麼樣 
沒我的日子 你別來無恙 
依然親愛的 我沒讓你失望 
讓我親一親 像過去一樣




這支mv是阿妹第一次以"動作"展現情感、"用肢體帶出我想說的話"的方式來拍攝,以往總是以眼神和故事情節來拍攝mv的阿妹,這一次在導演的要求下挑戰用"動作"來表達­自己的情感。

真不愧是天后,怎么可以唱得那么有感觉,那么好听,太认真的听一定会哭。


真心献上
《我最亲爱的》

Sunday, May 8, 2011

值得思考

这是我从网路上读到的,在这里和大家分享一小段。[kindly ignore the 他/她]

在黑洞中,我們忘記原諒,而學不會原諒,我們就失去了更多。我們會失去愛情、友情,會失去世界的愛。


我想,所謂的姊妹情誼,不是受不起考驗,姊妹情誼,是要受的起考驗,才珍貴。有人說,因為一直會被背叛,所以不想在與人深交。不過,學騎車都會跌倒,吃燒餅也會掉芝麻,走在路上也有可能被鳥糞打到……難道要因為這樣,不騎車、不吃燒餅、不走路嗎?


我現在反而覺得,經歷過「原諒」的感情更可貴,有些事情的確無法放下,可是有些原諒能讓彼此更好。
就像我們與家人之間,是度過了多少的原諒,才能如此緊密。當然,原諒,是要放在,懂得珍惜「原諒」的人身上。


不過很多事情請不要輕易放棄,如果你真的覺得那個人是如此重要,那麼就用同理心,去彼此對待,沒人必要對你好,而你覺得你對他的好,有時候,不盡然是他全都想要的。



ps:那你又是不是懂得珍惜原谅的人呢?

Specially for the one and only I called her , Mother.


Just in case you'll read these.
As I don't think what I wrote in the card is quite enough.

Dear mum,

You are the greatest person I've ever seen and I've ever had.
You bring me to this entire world which I now called My Life.
You always try to make me happy by just doing a simple act and I know you want me to be happy.
You have the soft and kindest heart of all. You always cried so badly watching every touching scenes in your korean drama.
You are always so tough and you never fall in your working life.
You are my best friend, like seriously if only I can name one best friend, you are the only one.
You treat me as your best friend too. I always feel so honoured that I can share your problems with you. You trust me and respect my opinions though I'm just a kid.
You hold my hands while we're walking and you like to kiss me. *blushed*
You gave me the freedom that I wanted which makes me feel so good to have such understanding mother.
You know my friends and you remember most of them.
You are so cool as you can always know what I want to eat or feel like eating, where I wanted to go in that particular day or moment.
You pay for my expenses and buy me the things I want or long for.
You always try so hard to give me the best you could.
You don't give me pressure on studies.
You understand me the most.


Most importantly,
You are always there when I needed you the most.
I love you more than you know with my deepest heart.
Thank you so so much for being my dearest mother.
I know I cannot ask any more from you.
You're simply too good for me.
It is never easy to be a good and responsible mother like you having a kid like me.
Thank you for all the attentions and effort you paid on me.
I treasure everything you did for me.
And I promise to be the best I could for you.
May you always be in the pink of health and be happy for the rest of your life.
I'll take care of you.



I love you, mother.

Happy Mothers' Day !


With Lots of Love from your dearest Daughter,
Yi Ling.

Friday, May 6, 2011

Get Pens Ready !

colours in life

No doubt these are all my highlight pens.
When it is around the exam corner, you'll get to see the appearance of these pens on the desk more frequent.
Get my pens ready!
It's approaching mid-year.
Somehow, I'm still kinda relax and living a carefree study life.
Anyway, I have a plan already.
Hopefully, it works.
Good luck to all sixth-form stress-ers who are all sitting for mid-year real soon.
Here comes pimples, coffee, mp3, snacks... essential things needed during the midst of exam.
If you're so stressed up with your studies, I think it is kinda ubiquitous case cause everyone of us is going through the same with you.
You're not alone my dear. ^^
What that matters is just the way you look at stress.
Take it positively then there shouldn't be a problem.
You may come and talk to me whenever you feel like talking to someone =)
As long as you have tried your best, I think it is more than enough already.
If you couldn't make up to your expectation, then don't expect too much.
Expectation is the root of all heartache.
Mind that.
Once again, be prepared everyone !
You can do it !
XD


Mothers' Day is coming!
Have you planned the day for your dear mother?
If you haven't, you can simply made her day by just saying the three magical words.
You know what it is.
So, I, sincerely wish each and every wonderful mother in this world
A very Happy Mothers' Day !
Mothers are simply too precious to have.
Love you, mum !
<3

I might not update for awhile or not that frequent =D

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Si Miang Tag Me !

FULL NAME: TAN YI LING
AGE: 18 plus
BIRTH DATE: 19921130
PRESENT ADDRESS: Somewhere in Penang.
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Rules: Once you've been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 95 truths about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged. You have to tag the person who tagged you.


WHAT WAS YOUR:
1. Last beverage: Ice Lemon Tea
2. Last phone call: Mum
3. Last text message: Heida
4. Last song you listened to: 李宗盛- 领悟 [ Falling in love with him! Very nice songs he wrote]
5. Last time you cried: Few days ago if not mistaken, while watching 和声

HAVE YOU EVER:
6. Dated someone twice: No
7. Been cheated on: My friends cheat me very frequently. The others no la.
8. Kissed someone & regretted it: Nope. Seldom kiss people eh lor.
9. Lost someone special: Nope
10. Been depressed: Nope
11. Been drunk & threw up: Nope. I want to try to get drunk if I've given the chance

LIST 3 FAVOURITE COLOURS:
blue red grey

LAST YEAR (2010), HAVE YOU:
15. Made a new friend: Yes, of course !
16. Fallen out of love: Nope
17. Laughed until you cried: Yes !
18. Met someone who changed you : No gua.
19. Found out who your true friends are: Knew it long time ago. =)
20. Found out that someone was talking about you: Yes
21. Kissed anyone on your FB friend's list: From what I remember, I guess no.

GENERAL:
22. How many people on your FB friends list do you know in real life: Quite a number la. Mostly I know geh.
23. Do you have any pets: nope
24. Do you want to change your name: Yes, but I couldn't think what to change. Hehe
25. What did you do for your last birthday: This is sensitive! I sat infront of the comp and replied comments.
26. What time did you wake up today: 0603
27. What were you doing at midnight last night: Sleeping
28. Name something you CANNOT wait for: Days after STPM
29. Last time you saw your mother: This morning
30. What is 1 thing you wish you could change about your life: I'm pretty fine with my life.
31. What are you listening to right now: 李宗盛's songs
32. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom: Yes, tommy !!
33. What's getting on your nerves right now: arrival of midyear exam!
34. Most visited web page: yilingx.blogspot.com
35. Nickname(s): hippo, fei fa, ah ling, ling po, tua pui....
36. Relationship status: Single
37. Zodiac sign: Saggitarius
38. Male or female: Female
39. Elementary: PCGPS
40. High school: PCGHS
41. College: PCGHS I supposed.
42. Hair colour: Brownish
43. Long or short: Short
44. Height: 159
45. Do you have a crush on someone: Nope
46. What do you like about yourself: LOL. I dont know leh.
47. Piercings: Ears yes
48. Tattoos: No
49. Righty or lefty: Righty

FIRSTS:
50. First surgery: -
51. First piercing: Ears
52. First best friend: koaykahyen
53. First sport you joined: badminton
54. First pair of trainers: My dad?
55. First vacation: Langkawi I think.

RIGHT NOW:
56. Eating: -
57. Drinking: -
58. I'm about to: go out.
59. Listening to: still the same
60. Waiting for: a call

YOUR FUTURE:
61. Want kids: Not really
62. Get married: LOL. Kinda hard to.
63. Career: I just want to be a successful woman !

WHICH IS BETTER:
64. Lips or eyes: Eyes
65. Hugs or kisses: hugs
66. Shorter or taller: Taller
67. Younger or older: Older
68. Romantic or spontaneous: Both !
69. Nice stomach or nice arms: Nice stomach ! Haha!
70. Sensitive or loud: Loud
71. Hook-up or relationship: Relationship
72. Trouble maker or hesitant: Hesitant

HAVE YOU EVER:
73. Kissed a stranger: No
74. Drank hard liquor: No
75. Lost glasses/ contacts: Nope
76. Sex on first date: Wow! Impossible.
77. Broke someone's heart: It's people's heart. So, did I?
78. Had your own heart broken: No
79. Been arrested: In my dream got lah.
80. Turn someone down: Maybe yes.
81. Cried when someone died: I think so.
82. Fallen for a friend: Nope

DO YOU BELIEVE IN:
83. Yourself: Yes, of course
84. Miracles: Yeah !
85. Love at first sight: Not really lo.
86. Heaven: Yaya!
87. Santa Claus: Yes, many fake eh.
88. Kiss on the first date: Funny question! Ok la, wa bo believe la
89. Angels: Yes.

ANSWER TRUTHFULLY:
90. Had more than 1 girlfriend/boyfriend at a time: LOL. What if I did?
91. Did you sing today: I sing everyday !
92. Ever cheated on somebody: No no, I'm an honest kid. =D
93. If you could go back in time, how far would you go: Maybe 5 or 6 years old like that la
94. If you could pick a day from last year and relieve it, what would it be: Last day of November. LOL
95. Are you afraid of falling in love: I think I am, If I fall, I'll fall hard. =(